Another U-Turn…
Posted by: Sandeep S. Sokhey on: November 11, 2009
It’s a long time i write a word on my blog, as I was passing through another U-Turn in my life and it was not less than a transition period of life. After this transition, I was comparing the ideas of my mind pre and post the transition.
- Same life but not as easy as before
, - Same world but new and different thoughts,
- Same salary but different financial planning,
- Same tasks but changed priorities,
- Same intentions but mixed emotions,
- Same surroundings but Indifferent feelings ,
- Same bike but different routes and co-bikers
, - Same social networking sites but different status ,
- Same movie halls but different timings,
- Same shopping malls but different shopping preferences,
- Same restaurants but different…….. ,
- Same office but different moods to come,
- Same friends but changed way of enjoying their company,
- Same gossips but totally changed topics,
- Same eyes but different approach to see,
- Same weekends but different celebrations,
- And a lot More same things but different ways to deal with them
Guys, I have not undergone a shock therapy or came out of a coma, I just passed a phase of my life which took my bachelorhood 
I AM MARRIED NOW………………………………..!!!!
And i am remembering a song “Jane kahan gaye woh din…..?”
GOD bless all…..
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Old Jeans and The Comfort Zone……
Posted by: Sandeep S. Sokhey on: March 27, 2009
- In: Thoughts
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Every time I go to my home (my natives), the first thing my Bhabhi (Big brother’s wife) asks, “Cheee…..!!!, Don’t you have any other jean or trouser. Every time you are wearing this old dirty jean. Looks so shabby, come on – how can you wear it and bear it ”. And my standard reply is, “Bhabhi – it’s a branded jean you know, I bought it in a costlier store in Bangalore and you are saying it shabby, how can you, you know I love this jean ”. The main idea is that I find that jean the most comfortable while travelling in busses or trains while going home and I do not want to spoil my other good trousers in travel. (by the way its not too shabby as Bhabhi says ).
So the ultimate idea is the comfort zone I feel in doing such particular things or action either it is wearing a so called shabby jean or anything else. This is the way I keep myself happy and of course enjoy doing those things. I still remember a guy in our class whose every sentence started with “Who, Whom, Why, When, What, Whose, How, etc etc.” and we always laughed at his questioning attitude. We used to call him a “Question Mark – ?”. But he was always happy in doing so. He felt in his comfort zone while doing all these funny things ( I don’t know whether he is still same or changed now). Ultimately being happy is the key, wherever and whenever you are happy and without tension, you are in your comfort zone. And believe me everybody loves his/her comfort zone the most. So Do your own, live your own and enjoy your own comfort zone.
GOD Bless All……
(I am going to home again this weekend and believe me I am wearing my so called shabby jean again to listen the same words from Bhabhi…. )
U-Turn in Life
Posted by: Sandeep S. Sokhey on: March 7, 2009
Time Changes Everything. Everything! Really??
While sitting in office and overloaded with work, I was remembering the days of my life which were without tension and full of joy. I was comparing …
- The flashy lights of the office vs. the dimmed lamps of the classroom.
- Pillow n flexible chairs vs. wooden desks.
- Professionally dressed up vs. old jean and rusty T Shirts.
- Well mannered talks vs. nonsense and bullshit talk (Of course abusing with love – Teriiiiii …………. di.
- Proper bound diaries for taking notes vs. borrowing pages from the friends(Yaar ik page dayee, copy ni haigi ajj).
- Workload responsibility and headache vs. give up attitude (ki rakhya hai yaar kamm kaar ch, aape hunda rahu
- Late night working in office vs. Study at night, how will I get proper sleep? (Raati te sirf ULLU jaagde ne, Aadmi nai)
- Making proper meeting notes vs. copying and Xeroxing others’ notes (oye tu notes banaye hai na, jara copy dayee).
- Debit/Credit Cards vs. chiller of coins (oye ajj apne kole 50 di note hai, maujan karde haan
- Latest Movies in PVRs every Friday vs. No money for movie yaar, TV shows very good movies(shad yaar ghare TV te dekhde haan, nai te CD te koi navee film kidha rahu?:().
- Helping collegueas in trouble on projects vs. making fun of those who are busy with studies (Oye tu padai karke DC lagana, har vele kitab nal judya rehnda
- Project planning in advance vs. There are still two weeks to exam, it’s a lot time to study (Yaar kar lavange padai v, bada time hai aje…:))
- Punctuality – the motto vs. leaders are always late (Jaldi jaake tu Jhanda lehrauna
- Calling everybody for well being(Balance in mobile) vs. giving miss call to make others call(Yaar paise sirf ikko call joge ne, so miss call mari c
- Costlier bikes and Cars vs. old rusty Bicycle n small quickie (Jahaaj mitran da
- Listening very calmly to the senior people vs. throwing chalks and making fun of teacher.
- Polished shoes vs. dirty sports shoes.
- Making a to do list in morning vs. “Oh Shit! I spoiled the day again just for nothing”
- Waking up at the first bell of Alarm vs. Mom Calling again n again to get up and still asking her to let sleep for two more minutes (Tu uthda ke nai te main lahwa ………………….
- Heeding to meetings n professional gatherings n workshops vs. Leave it Yaar, the same boring lecture, lets head to Canteen. (dafa kar yaar, fer s*** kann khau
- No time for Girlfriend vs. whole day for her. (jado kahoge haazir hojange g, tusi hukam karo
- Bread Jam, Cornflakes and Maggy – Healthy breakfast vs. Mom’s Paranthe
- Daily future planning, Family planning, money planning and career planning vs. DAD is here, so no fear(koi ni Bapu haiga…
I do not have any idea how my life took this U-Turn and how the track was changed. But still enjoying life, of course in other ways. Cherishing memories. Enough to delight the whole life. So I think the story is same for all. It does matter how we keep everything at track while enjoying the life at the fullest.
(Still more to come in U-Turn – Continued)
GOD Bless all….!!.
Relationship – Continued
Posted by: Sandeep S. Sokhey on: February 5, 2009
- In: Ehsaas
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“Be slow in choosing a friend and much slower while loosing them… because friendship is not an opportunity, its a SWEET responsibilty…………”
Relationship is most important part of friendship. True Friendship is based on three pillars – Trust, Accountability and Relationship. True friendship involves relationship. This relationship develops from recognition. Recognition here means having familiarity with each other’s personality, likes and dislikes, interests, pursuits, passion and to know when your friend needs you very much. Once recognition is built, this become the foundation in which recognition starts transpiring into relationship. Many people say, “Oh, he/she’s a good friend of mine, ” yet they never take time to spend time with that “Good Friend”. Friendship takes time, require time: time to get to know each other, time to share each others’ happiness and sorrows, time when their friends require help. As time goes by, there develops understanding in the relationship. Understanding as regard to know when you need your friend and to know when your friend needs you. A good friend is one who doesn’t have unnecessary expectations – he/she doesn’t expect friends to remember his/her birthday or special occasions or be with him/her always, but just expect from a friend – is support and their ear when he/she just needs to vent or talk about things and in same way be there always when his/her friend need his/her support and his/her ear. Once this mutual understanding develops, relationship becomes stronger and develops into a sweet bond – bond of unconditional caring, loving and sharing. And when friends share this bond then they internally start releazing the correct time to go away and to come closer.
This is the part which keeps the relationship forever and symbolizing the TRUE FRIENDSHIP.
May GOD bless all…….
(Ideas by Harish Suri)
Lohri Greetings…
Posted by: Sandeep S. Sokhey on: January 12, 2009
- In: Greetings
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Festivals are seasonal gifts, which the nature gifts us to keep our life colorful and full of enjoyment. So lets enjoy the festivals the most we can.
Lohri, a much awaited festival, is a festival of zeal and verve and marks the culmination of the chilly winter. Full of colors of enjoyment, zeal and enthusiasm. So lets join me and raise your voice to say the Lohri Song …
Sunder mundriye …ho!
Tera kaun vicaharaa …ho!
Dullah bhatti walla …ho!
Dullhe di dhee vyayae …ho!
Ser shakkar payee …ho!
Kudi da laal pathaka …ho!
Chache choori kutti!
zamidara lutti!
Zamindaar sudhaye!
bade bhole aaye!
Ek bhola reh gaya!
Sipahee pakad ke lai gaya!
Sipahee ne mari eet!
Sanoo de de lohri te teri jeeve jodi!
Chahe ro te Chahe pit!
May The Almighty God bless you with all the worldly blessings, success and happiness.
Success n Failure.
Posted by: Sandeep S. Sokhey on: January 10, 2009
- In: Thoughts
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“Life’s real failure is when you do not realize how close you were to success when you gave up.”
Failures add to your experience, Success proves it. But repeated failures ruin it too. Failure is actually a pre-test of our capability whether we are capable or able to handle the position the success it going to reward us. Lets be strong enough to show our capability that success comes to us as at its own rather than striving for it.
Difference between success and grand success does not matter for a person who is always successful and similarly difference between failure and blunder for a person who has never succeeded. A Person, who is always successful can never know the hidden motivation and inspiration behind the failure, which serves as a fuel to a forceful move towards the success. Failure always tastes very bitter but proves to be a sweetest fruit if taken as a hurdle to cross.
Life is like a series of games. Sometimes we fail, sometimes we succeed. Every failure teaches the new way to play the next game in more focused and determined way. Every move after a failure comes after a lot of preparation, new ideas, and innovative thoughts. Thus every failure is actually is a success which teaches us a lot of ways to handle the problems, which continuous success would not.
Failure is actually a failure when you fail to try again. Because your next move could get you to the Grand Success you are desiring for. Trying again is the key to Actual success.
Keep trying and learn from failures as this is the KEY to SUCCESS……
GOD Bless all……
Relationship…
Posted by: Sandeep S. Sokhey on: January 3, 2009
- In: Ehsaas
- 11 Comments
“To know when to go away and when to come closer is the key to any lasting relationship”
I was thinking of Harish’s sentimental attitude, when he put this quote as a tagline on his Orkut profile and IM status. But an incident forced me to ponder again over this thought.
Who are the friends? One always asks this question to self. And answer is same irrespective of the age, sex, religion, caste of the thinker. Friend is who, you want to care of. Friend is who, you expects him/her to care you. Who, you want to share feelings with, with whom you feels comfortable speaking all the non-sense things without thinking, with whom you feel happy, comfortable, secured, cared of, and enjoy from the core of your heart. You feel upset when you do not hear anything from friends for a long time. You feel that you have certain rights over them to say something or to stop them from doing anything. But all this is not true relationship. True relationship needs to take care of others’ first than ours’. Making others comfortable and happy at the cost of your emotions and feelings.
Come closer when somebody needs you, One feels happy with you. One actually needs you rather pretending to be so. Forcing our self on others all the times at the name of relationship always make others uncomfortable. Give them their space, let them enjoy their life. Everybody has his own life, emotions, feelings, dreams. Respecting others’ feelings is the most difficult but admirable thing in world. The more you make others feel comfortable, the more others will take care of you.
Go away when you feels that your closeness is creating problems in others’ personal lives. Your presence is making others uncomfortable. So before others start getting rid of you, it is wiser to go away with respect to maintain the dignity of the relationship. So that the relationship keep alive for long rather to make it bitter.
No matters how we apply this in our lives, but it is an effortless practice. If you are making efforts for this, then you are surely cheating with your own soul. This should be natural and a part of your character.
God Bless All……
Greetings…..
Posted by: Sandeep S. Sokhey on: January 2, 2009
- In: Greetings
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Before writing the first page of my diary of 2009, I asked GOD the way to be happy for the whole year. but I didnot get any reply. Tried again and again, but there was no reply from the other end. As I started writing, things started coming in mind automatically.
Making people around you happy is the KEY to be happy. If you try to make others happy, only then you will get happiness from them in return. It is not a commodity, which can be bought or sold, but only can be exchanged. By dividing happiness it comes back to you multiplied and if you alone try to multiply, it gets divided.
So start the year with a resolution to make others happy and you will be Happy with GOD’s grace automatically.
May GOD bless all…
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- kamal deep kaur: It's true comfort comes first, but u knw me...... , i remember meri purani jeans
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- Sandeep S. Sokhey: I agree with you Rohini. One should enjoy the moment he has in the hand rather than remembering the beautiful memories. the memories are just to cheri
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